Pooky the class bear is a very special little bear, he travels heavy with his toys, sleeping bag, toothebrush, hairbrush and clothes only going home for one night with the Star Pupil of the day.
Each time a Star Pupil takes him home for the night they have to play with him, feed him, make sure he baths and brushes his teeth ending it all with bed time stories… and LOTS of photos of course. They then write in his A4 diary about their time together, draw pictures of what they did and photos just for a hoot.
For months now Belle has had tearful moments when coming home without the dear class bear Pooky. She wanted him and couldn’t understand why she wasn’t getting her chance… that is till earlier this week. We were sitting around the dinner table and once more the topic of Pooky came up but this time with a slight difference. She told me that Pooky only goes home with kids that work hard, listen in class and help with noooo interrupting while the teacher talks.
I told her that if she really wants Pooky she must work for him and she said she’s going to work the hardest ever! Low and behold yesterday was the day, I was quietly waiting for Belle to exit the class when she walked out with the biggest grin and shouted “I GOT POOOOOOOOOOOOKY”. All the kids were fussing around her (its a big BIG thing to get Pooky) and all the mothers gave me condolences. They had warned me of the chaos this little bear brings but more of that in a mo’.
Think its an awesome lesson for someone so young, in fact anyone in general. Work hard and you get somewhere, work hard for something you really really want and you will get it and more. She was so thrilled to finally be honoured with Pooky and what was more she was proud of the fact that she had worked for him… Sometimes looks don’t get you everywhere, for someone who has made statements that it would this lesson is invaluable.
The other mother’s were right though in giving me their condolences though I don’t think it was for what actually happened yesterday. The minute Littlefoot saw Belle carrying Pooky he got in the mood. The mood being a jealous mean rage about Belle always being lucky, always getting everything and wait for it… Pooky not loving him.
I learnt early on that when he gets in that mood he is kept away from Belle, he gets this evil little look on his face, bullies and is really mean. He is an awesome little boy but with big issues.
I kept them separated when we got home and his mood just got worse and then some. He was making mean comments to Belle about Pooky and trying to destroy her special achievement, the things he said you can imagine but all along the lines of him not getting anything ever.
After about 10 minutes of that I made a judgement call and told him to go upstairs to his room until he can be decent and respectful, till he is my Littlefoot again. He naturally refused throwing a few kicks against tables and stomps so I did the only thing I could do and had no idea for that matter that I could. I picked him up and carried him up the stairs kicking and screaming and put him on his top bunk bed. Didn’t know I was that strong, my body didn’t either because I can hardly walk today but that’s a different matter.
Safely in bed still kicking and screaming (and me out of kicking range) I told him to think on how he is acting and if he would like it done to him, repeated that he can come downstairs when he is in a better mood and closed the door. I tried to cheer Belle up while we fed Pooky his lunch, man that bear is a messy eater!!!
I heard Littlefoot shouting about how everyone hates him, how no one loves him and let him carry on for a while – think sometimes its just good to get it out of your system. Eventually I went into the room and sat down, listened a bit and repeated what he said to him, then asked him who had told him that they hate him. It was an hour long heated discussion, an exhausting one at that. His jealousy is so out of hand and beyond reason and I told him as such.
Towards the end of the conversation I just told him in a no nonsense voice that the time when he throws these tantrums because Belle found a piece of bluetack or gets an award from school are over. I told him that from now on things are going to work slightly different, no one is going to give him a piece of bluetack just because Belle found some, no one is going to get him something just because he is upset about Belle getting something. From now on Belle also gets special time with her Papa not just him (he threw another wobbly bout this one) and she will be getting pocket money just like him (another wobbly). If Littlefoot finds a coin on the walk to school no one gives Belle one as well but when its reversed it is expected.
I told him that its all about him all the time, all about what he doesn’t have, what he never gets and that he has a really short memory for everything he does have. Belle gets nothing when Littlefoot gets a $200 Lego set. I then gave him examples of how he can act if he were to decide to come downstairs and left him to think. 5 minutes later he appeared and used all my examples thank God.
Spoke to Jude about it last night and we’ve decided that we’re going to act on his tantrums from now on, no more manipulation from him will be accepted. If he throws the comments about us taking his Lego away because we told him its bed time (seriously its weird the oddest things come out at the most unrelated times) then we will do what he says. If he tells us to throw it away we will. Consequences.
The reality is way different than what is in his head, Belle hardly gets anything at all, its all him and I’m tired of it.
Pooky bear and Belle had a really rough day so they ended up crawling into bed with me at 2am. Through it all though I am really really proud of her for both her achievement in getting the bear, her certificate and still having fun with Pooky despite Littlefoots desperate attempts to destroy it for her.
Now I’m going to have a looong bath and see if I can sort these superhuman muscles out… ouch!
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